Some couples benefit from a combination of counselling and self-help activities. Discussing family issues in counselling helps to alleviate feelings of being overwhelmed, or not knowing what to do next. Educational information on how couples or families manage difficulties can help promote healthy relationships despite the often very real challenges.
Self-Help Counselling: Sometimes counselling can involve couples taking workbook activities home, and this will usually involve talking about personal needs and desires with your partner. You are also welcome to request information or worksheets that you may complete with your partner at home if they are unable to attend with you.
Relationship Counselling: Most problems can be related to a breakdown in the relationship and a decrease in feelings of trust, love and attraction. Men and women differ in their needs, so understanding the other gender can often help to improve meeting the needs of each member of the couple. You may consider discussing your partner’s expectations and needs versus yours, and how the mismatch may be best managed, for the benefit of both in the relationship.
Behavioural Strategies: Many behaviours can make family or the couples relationship difficult. Discussion of the sequence of events leading to unhelpful habits can help to identify key thoughts and emotions that help to build desire and heighten pleasure. Most couples and individuals will find that simple changes in behaviour can improve intimacy and relationship bonds.
Problem Solving: Some problems occur for simple reasons that can be addressed with a problem solving approach.
Personality Testing: Some therapists will use personality profiling to help a couple to discover their strengths and areas of vulnerability. Sometimes it can be easier to work with your strengths to improve your intimacy, or for others it can help to problem solve areas of vulnerability.
Cognitive Therapy: Counselling that involves changing your thoughts about relationships can help in many ways, especially when you have negative thoughts that interfere with your enjoyment. Usually it is helpful to say the problem aloud and have emotional support from your therapist to manage the emotions that are generated by sharing the issue.
Mindfulness and Relaxation: Relaxation and mindfulness strategies can offer considerable help for anxious individuals.
Our family therapists are experienced in working with individuals, couples and families – book an appointment today to find out more!